MARRIAGE!
By Amirat Barakatullahi Ibrahim
AREWA AGENDA – Marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment. Marriage is a format union and social contract between two individuals that unites their lives, economically legally and emotionally. It’s the feeling of knowing someone loves you much and won’t leave you even at trying times. It is falling asleep in each other’s arms and feeling like there will never be enough time to spend together.
Marriage is an everyday program till you die, but the ceremony is a one-day celebration, most of us value the wedding celebration without knowing the challenges we are going TO FACE, a young lady who’s ready to get married is supposed to ask a lot of questions think about the person you’re getting married to, is it someone obsessed about you, some young ladies get married to their parent choice, while some young ladies get married because of money, you don’t know the kind of person you’re getting married to, that is the main reason number of divorce increasing day by day in the world.
People divorce due to lack of commitment, arguing too much, under age marriage, lack of equality in a relationship, lack of preparation for marriage and abuse. Generally, if spouses recognize problems in their relationship and one spouse has his or her foot out the door, it can be difficult to fix the marriage.
Problems in Marriage
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1. Jealousy: Being jealous can turn a marriage sour. A jealous person can become overbearing and controlling or angry and rejecting. the jealousy between two partners can cause problems in marriage, it does take two to make a marriage work, if a spouse no longer wants to be comforting, then divorce can come in as a result of jealousy.
2. Communication Gap: the most common complaint among couples is lack of communication, many couples experience such problem, instead for them to sit down and fixing it when they face new challenges, the issues are now whether the couples can listen to each other’s complaints with a fair hearing mind, they won’t listen because they won’t allow each other’s to talk and it may lead to gigantic problems in a marriage that can cause it to end.
3. Selflessness: if one spouse constantly places his or her priority above the goal and interest of the marriage, within a short time the spouse will begin to feel rejected and unloved, getting married also involves collective responsibility of giving and taking rather than getting your personal need above all the time.
4. Overstepping Boundaries: once two individuals are married, it is not normal for one spouse to try and change their partners. Whether it is their sense of thinking or their fundamental belief, trying to change your partner is a personal invasion, when such things happen, the victimized spouse will feel disrespected, hurt or even angry and that may lead to problems in marriage.
In conclusion, the solution to a successful marriage is to be surrounded by people in a healthy relationship, the couples should build a solid foundation, choose to love, act as if their spouse’s happiness is more important than yours, putting their spouse first, nurtures trust, gratitude, put the relationship ahead of everything including your children, it’s unfortunate, but time has a way to eating our priorities.
Amirat Barakatullahi Ibrahim
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